It’s an easy relationship trap to fall into. You’re busy,
he’s busy. You only see each other at the Reg. Plus, it’s pretty cute when you
work in the same 5th floor double cubicle together. But women who rely too
heavily on their boyfriends’ study spots are signing themselves up for serious trouble.
Yes, we have all been tempted to take the easy way out and follow our man to whatever part of the Reg he likes to work in. What would you
rather do:, trudge through the booths for 40 minutes looking for a good table,
or ask your beau if you can pretend to read Durkheim next to him on the A Level?
But when your study location depends on a man, this gives
him too much power and control in your relationship. The next time you catch
him looking at Hot Tina’s Instagram, what are you going to do? When you fight, you're less likely to call him on his bullshit because you can't retreat to your own study bunker.. Plus, what happens if you break up? You might get to keep
your shared friends and his oversized sweatshirts, but you’ll be left without a
secure place to do your Ccalc pp-sset. Where else are you going to go, Crerar? Gross. Law Library? As if. Harper? Your eEx still studies there.
Too many women end up staying with mea man who
disrespects them because they rely on theirhis Reg spots. You’re going to do whatever
he asks because your grades basically depend on his table next to the window near an outlet. This is the 21st century;; women ought to control their
bodies, lean in to their careers, and find their own study spots. You'll feel
much more empowered if you find your own comfortable spot— even if it’s on the
2nd floor!— than if you have to ask your boyfriend for permission to use “his”
table in the Ancient Near East Languages section.
Like As Virginia Woolf once wrote in A Room of One’s Own,: “A
woman must have money and a study spot of her own if she is to submit this Cchalk response by 6 PMpm."”
us all be #independentwomen together. Take a picture of your study spot and tweet
@chishadydealer with #neednomansueto.